“You’ve Changed”

Well thank goodness!!

It’s a phrase that I have heard a lot but more so when I talk to friends that have known me for awhile. In life, I believe that we’ve probably all heard this once of twice. It can be something small like a haircut or a new look of fashion, but what I’m most curious about is the change in your personality or outlook on life.

I welcome this phrase now-a-days. Mostly, people would find it a bit harsh but change doesn’t have to be bad. Having a more positive outlook or seeing a situation as beneficial that used to bother you before- that’s a good thing.

So next time you hear someone say “You’ve changed” take a minute to try and see what they really mean. Are they perhaps jealous you’re not stuck in a rut and have a better time moving on than them? Do they actually miss this “old you” and are concerned? We’re all moving through this life on a journey so change for most is inevitable. Let’s just make sure it’s a positive change.

Keep on keepin’ on.



Well well well…

Here we are, another year and another Valentine’s Day for some of us to celebrate and some of us to stress. I won’t lie I have to say that I’m not the biggest fan of this day. I honestly miss the days when my Ma would give me chocolates and a Beanie Baby as my special gifts. It’s a little hilarious to think about because still today I would rather celebrate with her and my family than anyone else. Some have been good, others have been downright awful. It’s not just the fact that I’m not really into pink and hearts everywhere, but the expectations for people who aren’t together to go on forced dates is quite possibly my worst nightmare. Well well well…

I want to say that I have a lot of love for my friends and family. Today I will celebrate with those who are close to me location wise and send love to those I miss from afar. So forget all the crap if today isn’t your thing but celebrate today for yourself in whichever way you want. Eat some candy, watch some horrible movies, take a walk and act like it ain’t no thang. Whatever you chose I hope your day is filled with light and love!


Turning Point

As humans, we all go through similar situations and find ourselves reaching out to others for numerous reasons. But is there a point in which we are thrown from all we know in order to learn more about ourselves? I think so. Life has so many twists and turns it’s hard to keep things straight a lot of the time. From what you thought you knew to who you never thought you’d become, we are ever changing. That’s a scary thought for me, but at the same time we all have an incredible journey ahead of us. So don’t stop, even if your heart is breaking and you feel more alone than ever before. Take the time to learn about yourself and become greater than you ever thought. So I guess what I’m trying to say is here’s to the ever-changing scenarios and day dreams that some day might all make sense, but maybe they won’t and that’s ok. The point is to keep going and never give up. You are not alone.

The Cycle of Relationships

In class this week we’ve been reading about relationships and their cycles and it got me thinking, does everyone go through the same thing in different situations?

Sitting there I couldn’t help but think about all my friendships and relationships that had gone wrong or simply faded into the abyss. Everything seemed to follow the same pattern. Initiation, Integration, Intensifying, Bonding…and then the decline and/or settle out.

There had to be an exception right?

I’m curious to how we humans interact with each other in the cost-benefit way. That seems too emotionless.

There must be more!


Through time I have had a number of people come in and out of my life. I’ve moved around quite a bit and changed schools many times. Something that I have found a little difficult is keeping in touch with my friends. Sure, when you are there everything is easy and you promise to each other that you will never not know a single detail about each other-but it gets hard. I’m not here to say that having friends in different places is impossible I’m simply expressing that it’s hard. It takes time and effort.

Over the years I’ve lost touch with a lot of people, but there is an upside. The people that I have stayed in touch with are my friends for life. I had an interesting conversation with one of my “best friends” the other day and I realized something. She was a soulmate of mine. And not in the romantic type, I’ll be clear about that. She was such a good friend to me over the years that merely giving her the title of best friend seemed degrading because we had such a good relationship. We can tell each other everything and we even live in different states over half of the year because of school. This brought on thoughts of all my other closest friends.

My closest friends are one in a million type of people and they were so special to me. Counting them on one hand I had kept some really important relationships in my life thus far. It didn’t matter that there were only a few-I had found some amazing soul mates that I was surely going to have for the rest of my life.

In conclusion maybe you don’t have just one soulmate to tackle on the hardships of life with, perhaps there are many right in front of you.